February 26, 2013

Kathleen will be speaking at the Fresno Women's Chamber of Commerce luncheon, held at National University in Fresno, CA from 11:30-1:30pm.
You WON'T want to miss this!!
National University
20 River Park Place West
Fresno, CA 93720

For more information, please visit their website at www.fcwcc.org

January 22, 2013

Kathleen Frank will be speaking at the Clovis Chamber of Commerce Women's Dinner at Andiamo's in Clovis, CA.  Dinner is from 5:30-7:30.
You WON'T want to miss this!!!
Andiamo's
1275 Shaw Ave.
Clovis, CA 93611

For more information about this event, please visit the Clovis Chamber of Commerce website www.clovischamber.com

ANONYMOUS 12/26/12

I was 3 years old when I was molested by my cousin, she was 14. Imagine feeling a sensual feeling at that young of an age, and carrying it until now. By the grace of God I am a virgin still to this day, but not a virgin to the sexual tension that’s been in my body since I was a little girl. At that age, somebody shouldn't feel what I felt for so many years, a young girl should be playing with toys for fun or surrounding herself in things that made her feel good inside. Not me though, that sensual feeling was stuck in my mind all the time. Masturbation usually starts when maturation begins in one’s self, but it started for me the day my innocence was tainted. I remember my teachers at school always catching me, and having to have meetings with my parents about my actions. My parents would catch me and I’d get yelled at, and my pastors would catch me and feel so bad for me. I remember having friends spend the night, and all I could think about was trying not to do it because I didn't want to scare them or get caught. I was constantly guilty, and always feeling like I was going to get in trouble. I remember as I got older I was able to control it; one because of God and two because I had to try hard to not let it have such a hold on me. To this day I struggle with the want to feel that sensation again, but I keep trying harder and harder to not let it have control over me. The molestation didn't affect me to where I was scandalous, or gave myself away to men, but every day is a day for me to get back the innocence that was taken away from me long ago. 

Steps to Inner Healing and Freedom

Below is a basic list of fundamental steps that are extremely important for those who want inner healing and desire deliverance from the pain and trauma of sexual abuse. The information here is a vital part of getting set free and it can play an irreplaceable role in setting you free today. Don’t spend the rest of your life in resentment, pain, and emotional and physical suffering from your past. The steps below are designed to heal your soul and give you freedom.

You Are Loved

First I want you to know that you are loved and I fully understand that there is nothing more you want but to be healed from your wounds and to have your pain, hurt and sorrow taken away from you. Have you loved somebody so much, that you wish you could take their pain or suffering from them? Of course you have. The first step is to love you. When you love yourself and know you are loved it makes the journey easier.  If you have a difficult time loving yourself, then seek to find someone to help you through this process. Find someone who loves you and allow them to love on you and tell you why they love you. Get reaffirmation of how much you’re loved. I go to the Bible and there I find thousands of scriptures of how much God loves me, this really helps me a lot!

Cast Your Cares Away

Do you want to receive healing from emotional wounds, pain, sorrows, grief, and anguish? It is vital that we cast these cares away not take the burden on ourselves. Everyone has their own way of doing this, for me I believe in God and that He loves me with an everlasting love, and that He desires me to be healed and set free, therefore I cast my cares upon Him.  Not some of them, but ALL of them; knowing that He cares for me and wants to take those wounds from me eases me; it gives me peace.

Release the hurt, the painful and fearful emotions from your soul.  Hanging onto fear, hurt and pain can actually block you from receiving healing in your soul. It is vital to open up and allow your wounds to be healed, and if you have a higher power like I do, then give it to Him. A scripture that helps me focus on this is in Matthew 11:28-30”

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

In the above verse, it's not speaking about a heavy physical burden, but a burden in a person's soul. This is made evident in the latter part of this passage where it says, “You will find rest for your souls.” Jesus is telling us to come to Him and give Him our heavy burden, and take His yoke which is light and easy to bear.

If you can’t go to God, then you need to work harder and tell your painful emotions to be released as you cast them away. It's okay to cry, sob and let the damaged emotions come out as you release them. Holding on to the pain and hurt will only prevent you from being healed.

Find Someone To Confide In

If you can find a person to confide in, it can also be very helpful to share your burden with them and receive encouragement and support from them. There is tremendous healing that can take place as you share your pain with someone you trust!

Try to find someone who has your best interest in mind. Someone who has been through a similar situation and has come out healed and set free is ideal.  You would be amazed to know that there are more people who have been through what you have been through, some set free and living an awesome life. Seek someone who can understand and give you comfort and wisdom.   Don't worry about being judged by what happened to you, the person you confide in must love who you are now.

Forgive

Abuse, trauma, hurt and pain are all works of evil.  However, it’s important to extend forgiveness towards those who have hurt you.  Not being able to forgive will hinder or block your healing. It will bind you up and cause you to live in pain and torment.  It is vital to release those feelings that you have against others, so that healing and forgiving power can heal and restore your soul.  It is a deadly poison that separates us from others and from forgiveness in our own lives. It is hard to receive healing when one is in such a position. Inner healing requires you to forgive. It is absolutely essential to release feelings of bitterness and resentment, in order to fully receive healing for our souls. Forgiving others will welcome healing power into your life.

Know Who You Are

Many people do not know who they are; they do not know their purpose.  They live day by day repeating many of the same things in their lives and seem to be going nowhere.  This way of life can cause depression which can lead to more hurt and pain.  Know who you are, know what your purpose is in life. If you don’t know, take time to find out. Ask yourself what you love about you, what your interests are and what makes you get up each day.  For me, I have recently come to know who I am, and realizing this was absolutely vital to my healing process. I now know my purpose.  Channeling what happened to me to help others; it is part of the healing process. When you've "been there and done that” you can empathize and be there for someone else who has or is suffering. You were created for good, use what happened to you to help someone else, doing so will not only help you heal but them too.

Confront Your Fears

If you deal with unbelief, insecurity, guilt, shame and so forth, you need to confront your fears. When I am faced with any kind of fear, I shout it out and tell whatever it is holding me back to leave.  A fear of any kind is not a part of who you are and has no place in your life; you have control over your fears, just take it! If you are impressed to speak over your fears now, then I encourage you to do so right now.  Why wait? This exercise will give you a sense of freedom when you’re done! Fear is what has bound you and held you a prisoner in your mind, body and soul. If you do not have the strength to confront your fears then God can and will deliver you from these areas that have held you captive, all you need to do is release it to Him.  If you still need help, and many reading this will, please don't hesitate to seek help from someone who is qualified.

I do not claim to be a specialist in the area of inner healing and deliverance, nor am I certified to help or council you. However, I have been through several inner healing and deliverance sessions for myself and once I experienced true freedom, I spent time going through classes so that I can offer help to those who have been bound as I once was. Again, there are those who are specialists, they can help you and I encourage you to seek the help you need so you can live a life of freedom in your mind, body and soul.

Thank you for taking time to read this article, the information given can also be found in my book, “I’m Fat and Nobody Cares”.  My hope is that you will be on the road to recovery and live a life that is purposeful and full of love, joy and freedom!  The state of our mind, our will, and our emotions are very important in how we feel, think, and act. One of my purposes in life is to share my freedom with as many people as I can so they too are set free from the bondage that has held them back most of their lives.   If you too are set free, I encourage you to share your story with others so they can get help. Doing so is a service of love that you can give to others who need to be free!

Volunteers Needed

Restoration Life Foundation is currently seeking volunteers who are interested in helping to be a part of changing girls and women’s lives who suffer from the emotional trauma of sexual abuse and molestation.   We are looking for people who are willing to volunteer their time to make phone calls to local churches, women’s organizations, counselors, and other non-profit organizations or schools that would consider having me speak about my abuse and offer hope and restoration.  Please contact us at info@restorationlifefoundation.org  or call at 1-866-350-LIFE (5433) if you are interested in volunteering your time for our cause.